At The Edge of Goodbye

At The Edge of Goodbye

There are moments in life that don’t feel like chapters so much as crossings – places where you are no longer who you were, but not yet who you’re becoming.  I find myself standing in one of those quiet crossings now. My cat – only five, still so full of...
Being ‘Nice’ Wasn’t Kind

Being ‘Nice’ Wasn’t Kind

I haven’t written a blog for a while.  Partly because life has been full, and partly because I’ve been immersed in an Authentic Relating course – which, as it turns out, is not just about relating to others.  It’s about learning to be more honest with yourself....
Beginning The Year Differently

Beginning The Year Differently

This Christmas humbled me in ways I didn’t anticipate. There were relational ruptures — moments where old wounds spoke louder than present-moment truth. Places where unconscious shadow moved through relationship before it could be named. Where transference and...
The Grief of One-Sided Relationships

The Grief of One-Sided Relationships

I’m so tired. Not the kind of tired a good night’s sleep fixes – the kind that sits in the chest. There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from showing up fully for people who rarely – or never – meet you in the same way. It’s a familiar...
Not everything is a trauma trigger!

Not everything is a trauma trigger!

There’s a difference between something touching an old wound and something simply asking you to grow. It sounds obvious, but in the moment, it can be hard to know which is which. And with the word trauma being used everywhere now – it’s easy to label every...
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